A few months ago, another mom told my husband she wished she was more like me because, according to this merciful mom, I “had it all together.” When my husband told me about this later, I literally laughed out loud because the thought of having it all together is both foreign and hilarious to me. I’m not sure I’ve ever had a day since becoming a mom nearly ten years ago when I thought, Hey I’ve really got it all together. Most of the time, I’m second-guessing every effort and comparing myself to other moms who I think, ironically, have it so much more together than I do.
I have a son who is a portrait of kindness and sensitivity. He doesn’t really like sports or getting too dirty. He usually prefers pretend play with dolls instead of superheroes. He can be very particular about his clothes. This year for Christmas, he’s asked for a dollhouse.
As a mom of three (ages 9, 7, and 4) I’ve experienced my fair share of moments when I wanted to admit defeat and run away. Burnout is not just a thing you can do in a muscle car. It’s a real-life byproduct of the business of motherhood. If you’re an imperfect mom like me and you feel ready to quit, know you’re not alone. Take a few moments to yourself, have a coffee or some tea, and reflect on these reminders to bring you peace of mind and heart.