A few months ago, another mom told my husband she wished she was more like me because, according to this merciful mom, I “had it all together.” When my husband told me about this later, I literally laughed out loud because the thought of having it all together is both foreign and hilarious to me. I’m not sure I’ve ever had a day since becoming a mom nearly ten years ago when I thought, Hey I’ve really got it all together. Most of the time, I’m second-guessing every effort and comparing myself to other moms who I think, ironically, have it so much more together than I do.
This month I’m trying something new and hosting a photo challenge on Instagram. Each day will bring a new prompt related to February, aka the month of love. Continue reading
This year our family is doing something I never thought we’d get to do. Our crazy, chaotic, single-income, family of five is going on a cruise!! This is not a drill, people!
I’m not one of those “New Year, New Me” people. In fact, I don’t even make New Year’s resolutions. I do, however, see the value in using the beginning of a new year to reflect on who and where you are versus who and where you want to be. So I’ve come up with five things I’m letting go in 2017 to put me closer to who and where I want to be.
I’m sure you’ve seen or heard of local rail companies hosting train rides with Santa or Polar Express-style trips this time of year. I know many families who enjoy these exciting excursions as a yearly tradition. But for our family of five, the related cost is usually not something we’re comfortable spending in an already financially-draining month. So a few years back we came up with our own version – the Minivan Express!
I have a son who is a portrait of kindness and sensitivity. He doesn’t really like sports or getting too dirty. He usually prefers pretend play with dolls instead of superheroes. He can be very particular about his clothes. This year for Christmas, he’s asked for a dollhouse.
Every year, our family looks forward to counting down the days to Christmas with a family activity advent calendar. Instead of uncovering candy or trinkets each day, we find a new activity or outing related to the season. I love that this gives us a way to celebrate and make memories together all December long. I also cleverly sneak in some Christmas to-do’s here and there to satisfy my need to multitask.
“Wait, really?” “Don’t you miss it?” “I could never do that.” These are the types of things I hear from people when they find out we don’t have cable television. It gets worse once they hear we don’t have Netflix, Hulu, or any other streaming service either. We might as well be time travelers from the 18th century. Do we even have indoor plumbing? Why do we do this to ourselves? How do we live without infomercials, holiday specials, Sunday football, and the endless current of over-the-top reality shows? Actually, it’s been easier (and better) than I imagined at the start. And we even still blend in with the rest of cable-connected society…at least I think we do.
As a mom of three (ages 9, 7, and 4) I’ve experienced my fair share of moments when I wanted to admit defeat and run away. Burnout is not just a thing you can do in a muscle car. It’s a real-life byproduct of the business of motherhood. If you’re an imperfect mom like me and you feel ready to quit, know you’re not alone. Take a few moments to yourself, have a coffee or some tea, and reflect on these reminders to bring you peace of mind and heart.